How is it possible that some intelligent, capable, and kind people have lives that seem to be in perpetual chaos? They struggle to maintain order, achieve their most important goals consistently, and they tend to be all over the place most of the time. How does this happen? Well, it is quite possible that if you’re someone like this, that you are living your life on accident rather than with some sort of plan. In this post today, I want to challenge you to take control of your life and avoid allowing luck to rule your life.
If you want to achieve better outcomes for yourself and your loved ones, you must decide to put your foot down, make a plan, and choose a direction for your life. Let me show you a simple strategy for how to take responsibility for your future.
Number 1: Examine Your Current Situation
The first crucial step in any transformation process, is looking at the present and assessing the status quo.
If you want to lose weight, you need to know how much you weigh now. If you want to make more money, you need to know the state of your finances now. If you want to improve your marriage, you need to know where you’re at with your spouse now.
It’s important to examine your current situation.
Ask yourself the hard questions:
How did you end up where you are?
Are you living in the home or apartment you’ve always dreamt of?
How did you end up there?
Was it the result of long-term planning?
Or was it the only place that you could find on short notice that would accept little to no deposit because you were short on funds?
It’s important to consider all aspects of your life during this step.
That includes your career, friends, fitness level, finances, intimate relationship, and so on.
Did you choose what you have, or did you just grab at the best opportunity that happened to wander by your awareness?
Become acutely aware of the real reasons behind your current situation. This will help you design a better plan moving forward.
Number 2: Determine the type of life you want to lead
Once you have a much clearer picture of your current situation, and possible reasons for it, it’s now time to determine the type of life you actually want to lead.
Many people never really consider this. They are very clear on the type of life they do NOT want to lead, but they lack clarity about what their ideal life would actually look like.
What type of job do you want?
Where do you want to live?
How do you want to spend your evenings?
How much money do you want to earn?
Describe your social life.
What is your partner like?
How is your relationship?
How much freedom do you have in your life, and what does that look like?
What does your health look like?
Take the time to thoroughly examine the future you’d like to experience. Remember, the brain can only achieve what it can conceive in an order to do that it needs clarity and focus. This second step in this simple process will help you with that.
Number 3: Put the first things first
In my experience, there are two areas in life that make everything else a lot easier and simpler.
They are: health and finances.
You can have all the resources you could ever need in this world, but if you lack good health it’s all worth nothing. Without good health or you experience, knowledge, connections, opportunities, past, present, and future all mean nothing.
Even if you’re somebody that doesn’t aspire to having any financial goals in your life, and you only want to serve humanity; without good health that becomes a lot harder.
If you want to improve your marriage, it’s going to require energy, and energy oftentimes come with good health.
If you want to be a better parent, having good health will make it a lot simpler showing up for your kids the way you want to show up for them. Just ask any parent who have tried doing this with poor health.
If you want to build a more successful business, health will be your greatest asset and resource. Ask any successful businessman who has lost their health just how important this actually is in business.
The second thing I would encourage you to make some plans around, is money.
Money isn’t the MOST important thing in the world, but it’s AN important thing.
Money is great for solving many of life’s challenges. It’s also a necessary resource for doing many other things. So, if you’re having financial struggles, it would make sense to work on your finances first.
Again, being a better parent, creating an improved marriage, having a successful business, and even creating good health, all become a lot easier when you have some form of financial means.
Look, you can argue against this as much as you want, but I know many very good people who are making a huge difference in the world, but you know what: many of them still rely on others with financial means to support them in their mission. It is the harsh reality of the world we live in; like it or not.
Money, like all other things, is merely a handy resource that can be used for doing a lot of good in life.
I would argue that you focus on financial and health issues first. After you’ve gained some momentum in these areas, you can address the other parts of your life, unless another part is really pressing right now.
Number 4: Be brave enough to choose
This is a truly important step in this process.
I’ve worked with many clients in the past who got crystal-clear on their current situation and also where they needed to go, but when it came time for deciding to do something about it they lacked the courage to act.
Many people know what needs to be done to improve their situation, but they’re not brave enough to make a decision. That is the unfortunate truth.
If you want to improve your situation starting today, you have to become brave.
Seriously, I know this sounds slightly airy fairy, but courage is a much-needed quality for changing your situation.
You need to muster up the boldness, courage, and tenacity to go after what you desire. It’s as simple and as hard as that.
Why haven’t you made decisions about your life in the past?
Is it possible that you were afraid to make a choice and possibly fail?
I understand that it’s true that you can’t fail if you never try, but you also can’t ever experience success and happiness either.
If you know what needs to be done today, find a way to get the courage to do something about it. And if you need support or help with this, please get in touch with me here and let me support you.
Number 5: Have enough discipline to choose
When people feel confused and uncertain, it feels easier to avoid making decisions. You don’t want to make the wrong decision after all.
However, this type of thinking is a trap.
Not making a decision seems like a good idea in the short run, but you always end up paying a price for that in the long run, especially in the form of missed opportunities or worse: a wasted life.
It is therefore better to make a reasonable choice and give it your best effort than it is to not make a decision at all.
Listen, sometimes you just need to make a decision and go for it. It is impossible to know what the outcome might be if you never have enough discipline to decide and follow through. So, why be afraid?
Yes, there is always some risk involved with making courageous decisions, but with the risk also comes a possibility of great reward.
Number 6: Luck is short-lived
When you don’t put energy into something, it will tend to fall apart over time. That’s just how life works.
Whether you’re talking about a fence, a sand castle, or your life, luck is short lived. The natural way of the universe is to move from ordered to disordered.
The only cure or resistance is concentrated effort and energy.
A wooden fence only survives if you repair it and paint it at regular intervals. Even then, it will still have to be replaced at some point.
Your life is no different. Without energy and intention applied regularly, your life falls apart just like that fence.
At no time can you decide to retire from life.
The moment you do, this natural way of the universe sets in quicker than you can say “oh, crap!”
If you want to shift your life from where it’s at right now to where you would like to be eventually, you need to understand this about the world we live in. Moreover, you need to actively choose to do something about it.
Sitting on the fence might seem like a good idea in the short run, but hopefully you realise now that the fence you’re sitting on is bound to fall apart from under you; whether you choose to stay or not!
So don’t wait until that happens, create a plan and start working on it.
Now is the time to take control of your life and make decisions that matter. Choose a course for your life or allow entropy to slowly destroy it. Take control while there’s still time to create an exciting life.
I hope some of this spoke to you today.
If it did, I would love to hear from you.
Please leave your thoughts, comments and questions below and I will try and respond to each and everyone.
To your success,