Let’s be honest, passion is far more attractive than a lack thereof. Women tend to be attracted to men who are passionate about something, and men are very much the same.
In fact, as a man, I would argue that few things are as attractive as a woman who’s passionate about something.
Maybe it has to do with the connection between passion and confidence – which is super sexy.
Or perhaps it’s about the appeal of an independent woman having her own stuff going.
Your guess is as good as mine.
What I do know, however, is that if you want to be attractive to a man, you must have something in your life that you’re passionate about and confident about.
But what do I mean by passion or being passionate?
What Is The Meaning Of Passion
In its essence, passion is more than just enthusiasm or excitement; it’s a deep-seated drive that inspires individuals to pursue their goals relentlessly, overcome obstacles, and maintain motivation despite challenges.
Consequently, that profound connection to one’s pursuits is what distinguishes mere interest from genuine passion.
Passion also fuels perseverance, enabling people to continue striving towards their objectives even when faced with setbacks. This often leads to greater satisfaction and fulfilment, as passionate individuals are more likely to engage deeply with their work and hobbies.
That … is what attracts men, I would argue.
Let’s Switch Places
Think about it this way: How interesting would it be to spend time with someone who did nothing more than talk about the weather and watch television?
Or worse, he’s got no drive and is going nowhere … fast.
He’s not passionate about his job, any hobbies, or even his mates.
How would it feel to be in a relationship with someone like that?
Moreover, how attractive would that be?
Also, what type of life together do you imagine you’d have?
Chances are, when he isn’t passionate about anything, things will get boring and pointless pretty quickly.
The attraction will start waning at some point.
And, from a guy’s point of view, the same is true when it comes to women.
Perhaps even more so.
Now, when it comes to being passionate about something, there is one BIG no-no.
Being passionate about your partner or relationship doesn’t count.
I mean, it’s great that you feel strongly about your man and your relationship, and he will no doubt appreciate it.
But there is also a very thin line between being passionate about being with him and coming across as needy.
And neediness is a big turn-off.
Nothing turns a guy off faster than a needy partner or spouse.
Because the behaviour that tends to accompany that, can come across as smothering, overwhelming, and intrusive into his life.
It’s not attractive at all!
That’s also perhaps why being passionate about something outside of the relationship is so appealing.
He knows that you’ve got your own life and stuff going on beside him, and he’s not responsible for making your world go round.
Now, don’t get me wrong – if a man’s really into you, he will move heaven and earth for you.
But the moment he feels he HAS to or you start falling apart without his 100% undevoted attention, he starts making plans to exit.
Or he just avoids you.
Because you’ve lost your appeal.
Men love the chase.
They love passion.
They love confidence.
They HATE neediness.
Not initially, maybe, but in the end, they always do.
It gets too much.
We don’t want you to be clingy.
Unless we’re “clingy together” in the bedroom.
But that’s another story.
At the end of the day, when you have a passion of your own, he knows it is something he can share and enjoy with you.
For example, my wife has a passion for portrait photography.
And she is really good at it.
When she gets into her zone and is preparing for a photo shoot, guess what I do?
I get involved.
I help set up and tidy up the space she is using for her shoot.
I vacuum clean.
I support and encourage.
I make sure to take care of the stuff in the background, like cleaning the dishes after the photoshoot lunch so that she can focus on what she does well and enjoys—tending to her clients and the photoshoot.
That’s just a simple example, but that’s how it tends to be when you have a passion that your man can share.
Now, if he doesn’t want to share in it, you deftly have to question your choice in men.
Seriously.
Because in my opinion, when a man’s really into you, you will know it.
I would suggest that most men I know are too simple to play (mind) games.
We tend to mean what we say and say what we mean.
It’s just that women tend to listen or look for different meanings, and it confuses them.
So a simple rule of thumb is to understand that what we say is usually quite literal.
When we say, we are tired, that’s what it means.
It doesn’t mean anything else, or that something else is going on.
Women tend to have five other meanings when they say something.
But back to the point.
When you have a passion or are passionate about something, it is really attractive to a man.
And a good man will support you in it.
Having passion will give you BOTH something to share together and learn together.
And many times, you’ll have different passions.
Which is fine.
It only means you’ll both have new things to learn and enjoy with each other.
And again, passion gives you confidence and men are attracted to self-confident women.
Make a note of this somewhere.
Men love confidence and passion, BUT a lack of confidence puts them off.
