"Hi, I’m Gideon, a Top Marriage Blogger and Coach in New Zealand."
I always love the “about me” page on websites like this because they’re written in the third person … even though they’re typically written by the owner of the site...
"So after Gideon made several attempts to sound smarter than he really is by writing about himself in the third person, he quickly abandoned that approach and decided to write this page like it was a letter to a friend."
Which … in many ways, it is.
Anyway – what do you want to know about me?
I live in Northland (New Zealand) with my beautiful wife.
We have two kids and two cats.
I’m guessing that’s not the kind of stuff you’re looking for.
You’re probably wondering,
"Is This Guy Worth My Time And Attention?"
For many readers, my answer is NO!
I cannot help you unless you’re really motivated to help yourself.
For some reason, people are attracted to “gurus” or experts to solve their problems for them.
Now, I would be the first to admit that learning some insights from those who know more than I do is a smart move, but there is still a huge prerequisite for any new results you desire in your life or business.
Action on YOUR part.
The only time we tend to take action in any part of our lives, we need to feel that we truly want to, i.e. what I call "to be motivated" to help yourself. You need to have some reason compelling you to take action otherwise you simply won't.
That doesn’t mean that you always feel 100% like doing the things that need to be done, but you at least need to have some desire to want to improve your situation or create better results.
I cannot help you unless you're really motivated to help yourself. That’s just a fact. Not even the great Tony Robbins can help you if you don’t want to.
Plus, he won’t allow you to waste his or your time anyway. I won't either.
So, no, I can’t help you if you don’t really want better results in your life and relationships. And anyone tells you they can is full of bull crap.
If you don’t want to take action, you’re not going to enjoy my coaching and insights.
No, I don’t believe in just giving people “homework” for the sake of it.
But I do believe that without action we cannot have new results. The Ancient Scriptures say that even great faith without action is dead. New results demand some new action.
We can sit around talking about things till the cows come home, but unless somebody takes a new action you cannot expect a new or different result.
Albert Einstein is credited with the quote “doing the same thing over and over again while expecting a different result is the definition of insanity.”
I tend to agree with that.
So many times we think that the answer to our challenges or problems lies in simply doing more of what we are already doing. The problem with that logic is that whatever you’ve been doing up until now has only been good enough to give you the result you’re experiencing right now.
If you want something else, you need to take a different action. Make a new decision, make some new choices, or start walking in a different direction. Something!
If you’re someone looking for a breakthrough in your relationships (or life) but want everyone else to make the changes while you remain same, my way of coaching will be a huge frustration to you.
I challenge people, as I do myself, to raise the bar, step up, and make things happen. A new life or improved situation won’t come knocking on the door. You have to make it happen. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
So, if you don't like being challenged, maybe pass on my coaching because you will get "tough love" in droves. But in saying that, you will ALWAYS feel respected and safe when working with me.
If you’re looking for the “Something-for-Nothing" way, I don’t want to help you.
It’s important you understand what I’m telling you.
I can help you, I just won’t. I’m capable of it, but I refuse to do it.
Because when I hear someone say, “What’s the easiest way”, what I’m really hearing is, “I’m not fully invested in the long-term success of my marriage or relationship … and am therefore not fully invested in success at all.”
And that really translates to “I don’t want to change or do any work” which really means "I'm here to waste your and my time."
Now, I don't know about you, but personally, I'm not really into wasting my time. We only have SO much of it, right?!
Look, let me just say this if you don't know it already and save you some time, effort and money – creating a healthy, happy, and intimate (hot) marriage or relationship takes hard work.
It’s fun, but it still works. You have to keep at it.
It takes HARD WORK to create and it takes HARD WORK to maintain.
Now with that off my chest, are you still here?
Here’s what you can expect from me:
Can you believe I just told you flat out that you’re going to receive blatant offers from me?
Well, why wouldn’t I tell you?
I mean c’mon – I’m running a business here.
Yes, I want to make a difference in the world and see happy people, but I still need to make money to sustain the message and serve my family.
I, like ALL other coaches, make our money by selling stuff.
So I will try to sell you really helpful stuff from time to time and I won’t be subtle about it.
However – it’s always preceded by really valuable insights, strategies and tactics you can use immediately.
The idea is that you’ll say, “Mate, this free stuff really helped me/us. I think I’ll try the paid stuff.”
Pretty simple, right?
Frank Kern (someone I consider a mentor in many ways) call it the old “Demonstrate You Can Help Them By Actually Helping Them” trick.
But you still might be wondering …
How Do I Know If Your Stuff Is Any Good?
Well, the smartest thing to do is to just get some of my free or really low-tier materials.
If you like it, you’ll probably like my online courses and coaching.
If you don’t like it, you won’t.
I believe that when relationships are healthy, happy and intimate, in my opinion, life seems to be so much easier and better.
When people are truly happy in their love relationships with their partners, life seems to flow effortlessly.
But, the opposite is equally true.
When people feel frustrated and stuck, or have become stagnant in their marriages/relationships, everything else seems to become so much harder.
The challenges of an unhealthy and unhappy relationship that lacks connection and intimacy, become all-consuming and suffocating.
However, that doesn’t need to be your life.
You can have a healthy, happy and intimate relationship with your spouse/partner.
All you need to turn things is a willingness to save or improve your love relationship, the right insights that are proven to work, and commitment to consistent action.
I will help you:
I have learned that once couples are equipped with 1) awareness and 2) tools, they are empowered to start making better decisions within their context, facing their unique and specific challenges.
There is no cookie-cutter approach because we're all simply too different.
There are only fundamental principles we all need to adhere to if we want to create a happy, healthy and intimate relationship.
And these fundamental principles are very much translatable into most of our unique contexts.
So once you learn what we know about what "most" happy couples do to create the lives they have, you will simply be left with a choice to do the same or not.
But whatever you decide, it won't be due to a lack of understanding.
Something we also talk about a lot during this process.
Where do you start?
Here’s My Suggestion ...
Go read through some of the articles on my blog as they contain massive amounts of value that help you for FREE.
If they help you, and you want more, then check out my online store for heaps of helpful downloadable guides to get started immediately!
If you like that, then we can talk.
Pretty simple, right?
Now, let's get to work!