August 22, 2021 |James Bauer

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In this post, we’re looking at why every man pulls away and how to trigger a man’s hero instincts. 

Let’s start with Maggie and Rick.

Maggie was confused.

Rick had blown her away on their first two dates.

No guy had ever worked so hard to impress her.

And impressed she was.

He was attentive, respectful, gentle and engaged.

But then, just when she decided she’d fallen for him…poof.

He withdrew.

Rick pulled away.

Why Do Men Do That? Why Do Men Pull Away And Shut Women Out?

Certainly, not every man pulls away when things start to heat up, but a lot of guys do.

Enough, in fact, that this is a common question among the women I work with as a dating and relationship coach.

Guys come on strong, pursuing with enough passion to make Romeo jealous, but when they win the attention of their Juliet, it’s game over.

What gives?

Why do men pull away?

how to trigger a man's hero instincts

Look, dating’s a tough gig.

Yes, it’s fun and exciting, but it’s also nerve-racking.

At first, it’s all about the chase.

He’s trying to get your attention, and you’re deciding whether or not he’s worth it.

That’s the time in any dating relationship when both people are so wrapped up in the pursuit that they’re hardly giving any thought to what will come next.

And Then, The Pursuit Changes…

You decide you’re into the guy, and he, having won your attention, has to begin the process of considering an actual, serious relationship.

Does he want one?

More than likely he does, or he wouldn’t have been chasing you!

But, wanting it and being fearless enough to really go after it is two different things.

So, what’s a woman to do?

how to trigger a man's hero instincts

Well, first I’ll tell you what you should NOT do.

Avoid These Two Common Mistakes

First, don’t assume it’s about you.

It almost certainly isn’t.

He was into you before you decided you were into him.

He’s still into you now.

Second, don’t pressure him.

This is where a lot of the advice columns get it wrong.

They often say you should play “hard to get” or some version of it.

Instead, let him know you’re interested in him.

Do it in ways that don’t smother or push. (Text messages every hour, on the hour, for example, might be overdoing it.)

Why do men pull away and shut women out at this phase of a relationship?

Because he’s really nervous.

Not nervous about you, though…

He’s nervous about giving up his freedom of choice.

Don’t Change, Be The Woman He Fell In Love With

During the pursuit phase, it’s the desire that motivates him.

As soon as he realizes this could be something real, his motivation shifts.

Suddenly, he’s thinking about the many options he will give up and the lifestyle changes he’s committing to.

A lot of guys have an irrational fear that all their activities will all become feminized if they commit to a woman.

When he’s acting this way, you don’t have to change what you’re doing.

When he acts distant, your best bet is to appear calm and comfortable.

Be the woman he fell in love with (carefree, confident, and available).

Don’t freak out – that’ll freak him out.

Don’t demand his attention – that’ll send him running.

how to trigger a man's hero instincts

And don’t launch into a panic that he’s seen some fatal flaw in you.

Because that thought process will put you in a negative frame of mind, and that’s anything but attractive.

Always Assume The Best!

He pursued you for the first few dates, hoping you’d decide you were into him.

He’s gone out on a limb before.

Now it’s your turn.

Give him enough space to feel comfortable while still letting him know you’re interested.

Any guy who truly wants a mature, real relationship will come around as soon as he sees there’s nothing there to be afraid of.

And any guy who’s NOT ready for a real relationship wasn’t the catch you thought he was, anyway!

Now, before you settle into “waiting mode,” I’d like to share a shortcut that can pull him back and rekindle his passionate pursuit at lightning speed.

There’s nothing wrong with being patient, but if you want to pour a little miracle growth on your relationship, here’s…

How To Trigger A Man’s Hero Instincts

When He Shuts You Out, Try This…

Survey research shows men would rather be respected than loved.

It’s wired into our DNA.

As men, we feel an irrational need to earn your respect as an avenue to becoming worthy of your love.

Now look, as a male dating coach working primarily with women, I know how crazy this must sound to you.

But it’s true.

It’s one of the few “secrets” that really can give you an unfair advantage over men.

how to trigger a man's hero instincts

Here’s how this knowledge can help…

If you channel a man’s deep desire to earn your respect in the right ways, he will bend over backwards for you.

And the more he does this, the easier it becomes for him to see himself in a long-term committed relationship with you.

And His Favourite Way To Earn Your Respect?

He wants to be HEROIC.

More specifically, he wants to be YOUR hero!

How to trigger a man’s hero instincts comes down to understanding that he wants to solve problems for you, come to your aid, and prove himself useful.

It’s not very romantic, but it’s woven into the fabric of his DNA.

Once you understand and start tapping into that part of his hardwiring, it literally becomes a relationship game-changer!

You can change things for the better today!

About the author

James Bauer

James Bauer is a recognized author and relationship expert. He started his career as a professional psychologist and is the author of the ‘His Secret Obsession program.‘

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