August 11, 2015 |Gideon Hanekom

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In this post, we look at a simple process to release limiting beliefs and create new beliefs to design your ideal life.

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How am I going to live today in order to create the tomorrow I’m committed to?  ~Tony Robbins

What a powerful question.

How am I going to live today to create the tomorrow I’m committed to?

To create the tomorrow I desire, I must change how I live today.

And to change how I live today I must change my limiting beliefs, align with my values, change my habits and increase my commitment.

But it all starts with the way you look at life.

Your beliefs. What you believe is true for you will shape your life.

Your beliefs colour your perception of the world and your experiences.

Many beliefs are true only because you believe them to be.

If your beliefs aren’t congruent with excelling in life and receiving abundance, for example, it’s very unlikely you’ll ever live the life you deserve.

When your results are falling short of your desires, your beliefs are the logical place to make a change.

After spending a lot of time with people in either counselling or coaching over the years, I have discovered that many of the beliefs you hold most strongly are often inaccurate.

Most of our fundamental beliefs are formed at a young age.

We often learn these beliefs from sources that are merely perpetuating beliefs they have learned from someone else earlier in their life also.

However, many of these beliefs are often left unchecked and they simple travel from one generation to the next.

They never get scrutinised or questioned.

It’s easy to see why we have beliefs that hold us back from creating the lives we desire.

The challenge in this post is to release limiting beliefs that are holding you back and create your ideal life.

Choose a negative belief and release it:

Challenge the belief.

Suppose you held the belief that the rich get richer and the poor get poorer OR money is evil which makes most wealthy people evil or at least bad people also.  

Where did the belief originate?

What was the source?

Did you read it or experience it first-hand?

Was it something you learned from a parent, teacher, or peer?

Is the source reliable? Has this source been wrong about other things in the past?

Is this person an expert regarding the belief?

You wouldn’t take long-term relationship advice from someone that’s been divorced 5 times, so why would you from someone who doesn’t really have any experience in this matter?

Do you have proof that your belief is accurate?

Could the opposite be true?

What if they and your belief are wrong?

What would change?

How has this belief limited or harmed you in the past?

List all the times this belief has steered you in the wrong direction or stopped you from taking action.

Visualise your past and re-experience the pain and disappointment this belief has created.

Realise that releasing this belief is a positive and necessary step.

Create a new belief that serves you.

It’s not enough to let go of a belief.

It’s important to replace it with a new perspective.

What is a more useful alternative to your current belief?

For the previous example, you might choose the belief, “Anyone can attract wealth and abundance.”

Make a list of alternative beliefs and choose the one that feels the most empowering.

It’s important to pull these new beliefs in with your whole physiology, not just conceptually.

Search for evidence that your new belief is possible.

Do you know any wealthy people that started with little money?

Seek out examples of successful people that came from humble beginnings.

Have there been instances in the past you’ve proven your new, desirable belief correct?

Make a list of all the times you’ve been successful in congruence with your new belief.

Get excited.

Visualise yourself living your new belief without the old limiting beliefs.

To make changes in your life it is important to see yourself living your compelling completed future before it actually happens.

Ask yourself, How would your life change?

How would that make you feel?

What would you accomplish?

Stick with this process until you feel a high level of excitement and enthusiasm.

Reinforce the new belief.

Repeat your new belief to yourself 100 times each day.

This will only take a few minutes.

Make time in the morning and evening to complete this task.

Emotionally engaged visualisation is a powerful form of reinforcement.

Beliefs are most easily formed through strong emotional reactions and repetition.

The previous step provided the emotion.

This step provides repetition.

Continue until your new belief is rock solid.

It’s easy to slip back into old patterns of thinking.

Continue the process of visualising your new belief in action and performing the 100 repetitions until your new belief is unshakeable.

You also need to test your new belief.

Think about areas or situations where your old belief would have made it difficult for you to create your ideal outcome, and see how your new belief changes how you feel now.

A few final thoughts …

Take one thing from this post today – Your beliefs shape your results and your future.

Therefore if you’re dissatisfied with your life, begin by addressing your limiting beliefs.

New beliefs are easy to install.

Consider how easy it was to install your previously held beliefs without intention.

The key is to find evidence for the new belief, surround the new belief with enthusiasm, and condition yourself daily.

About the author

Gideon Hanekom

Gideon Hanekom is the creator of, a popular relationship blog that ranks among the top 50 relationship blogs in 2024. The website helps couples to create happier, healthier, and more intimate relationships. Gideon is a trained professional counsellor and holds post-graduate degrees in Theology and Psychology. His articles have also been featured on respected platforms such as and The Good Men Project.

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