It is devastating to deal with a breakup during this pandemic. People already encounter rapidly spreading lethal viruses, dealing with social isolation, lockdown, job insecurity, and economic uncertainty. So having a break-up at this time would be too much to handle for anyone.
According to my very own experience, going through a breakup is not easy, no matter how many times you’ve experienced it.
A breakup is not just painful on its own, but it is often can do harm to everything else.
It hurts you from inside, emotionally, and mentally.
Personally, I think it is okay to cry and mourn after a breakup, it is part of a healing process.
Because you need time and space to recover from that sadness, especially during this pandemic.
But it must be done with certain guidelines, and that is what we gonna discuss in this post.
How To Deal With A Breakup During Quarantine
You’re bound to feel lonely in any normal break-up.
By moving from being a couple to being alone during a time when you have to self-isolate, you will feel much lonelier.
You’re facing a new normal, you can’t go travel, you can’t hang out with your buddies, you can’t go to the beach and etc.
Right now, there are restrictions on everything you do.
And these restrictions are beyond your control, the whole world is facing the same problems.
To deal with a breakup during this pandemic will definitely make you more stressed and depressed.
So if you happen to be in the situation, please read this article until the end.
Hopefully, it can help you to control your emotion and deal with your breakup.
1# Give yourself some time
At the early stage of the breakup, you will need some space to be alone, grieving on your couch, watch your favourite TV shows and eat junk food that can bring you joy.
Sure you can do these, as long as you’re not doing this forever.
It would be much better if you use this time to find your inner peace.
Sit back and relax, try to find out what you really want in your life.
Take this opportunity to think hard about yourself and what kind of relationship you want.
You also can use your time for your personal interest.
It may sound cliché to say this, but it is always a great option to divert your mind to new hobbies or anything that you like to do.
As an example, maybe this is the best time to deco your private space.
Like it or not, in order to deal with a breakup you need to move on from your past relationship.
So instead of mourning every single day, try to do something that benefits you.
Keep calm and be patient, you need to believe that all of this will be over soon.
2# Practice home workout
Physical exercise has positive effects on your mood and mental health.
The movement of your body is enough to transform you.
Scientists also believe that regular participation in exercise can decrease overall levels of stress, improve mood and self-esteem.
The logic is very simple; when your body feels better, your mind also will feel better.
So instead of staying in the bed when you deal with a breakup, get your ass up and start exercises.
This activity will take your mind off of your breakup and at the same time improve your emotions.
3# Stay off from social media
Right now nobody goes out and socializes, so most of us will spend our time on social media, including you.
So if you still stalk your ex on social media, you should stop doing it.
Watching your ex on social media won’t make you feel any better.
Stalking him right after a breakup is a disaster.
The first thing you need to do after a breakup is cut off contact with him, no chatting, no stalking.
It is called the no contact rule.
And when you deal with a breakup, this is the first rule that you need to follow, trust me, it is very powerful.
But if you still want to use your social media, you can just unfollow them and keep them out of your sight.
Keep yourself under the radar, avoid posting anything about your breakup on your social media.
4# Talk to someone you trust
It could be your best friend, your mom, your therapist, or a coach.
It is good to have someone who can listen to your story, thoughts, and feelings.
And with the help of our technologies, you still can talk to them even in this social distancing era.
After all, we as a human need a human connection.
Talking to someone you trust will remind you that you are not alone while you deal with a breakup.
And it can be invaluable to know that is there to hear you express and cry over the relationship.
So cheer up and speak out to someone you trust!
5# Find a new hobby
Nowadays, you can find a new hobby by using your smartphone.
Just google something like “new hobbies to try during the quarantine” or “new hobbies to start at home.”
You will get a lot of ideas from this search.
Taking the time to clean your room and reorganize your space also can help you feel like you’re turning your life into a new chapter.
When you deal with a breakup, it’s important to use the time to learn to focus on yourself and provide yourself with something to look forward to every single day.
I personally love “aquascape.”
I love the natural look and feel so calm with this hobby.
Take this opportunity to try something new.
Who knows, maybe your new hobby will let you met someone special later on.
6# Enjoy the nature
We all know that being in a lockdown can be difficult to go out.
However, you still can enjoy nature around you.
Maybe you can open your door and window to enjoy the morning breeze while sipping your cup of coffee or anything that will take your mind off from your breakup.
Hear the birds chirping and enjoy the sound of the wind.
Spending your time with nature can help you reduced stress, anxiety, and depression.
Maybe you can start your own mini garden project or you can deco your private space living plant.
A change of scenery will boost your mood and make your mind peaceful.
Perhaps the best music to your ears right now is the song of nature.
Healing will take time…
To deal with a breakup during a global pandemic is gonna be tough because it comes with the full package.
It means that there are other problems that you need to manage other than yourself.
Including social distance, global lockdown, economic crisis, and so on.
Hopefully for those who are facing this problem can overcome it slowly.
It’s not easy but try to focus your time on things that you love first.
Learn to love yourself and remember, you deserve to feel happy.
Heartbroken is not permanent, sooner or later you will feel better.
It is all about how you give yourself time to move on.
My final advice is, go easy on yourself and find your happiness.