Twintig jaar. Dit is hoe lank my vrou en ek al in hierdie ding saam is. En as ek sê ‘daarin’, bedoel ek alles… die seisoene van ongelooflike seks en die seisoene van byna geen, die finansiële hoogtepunte en die dieptes wat ons alles laat bevraagteken het, ‘n miskraam wat ons oopgebreek het op maniere […]

Twenty years. That’s how long my wife and I have been in this thing together. And when I say ‘in it’, I mean all of it… the seasons of incredible sex and the seasons of almost none, the financial peaks and the valleys that made us question everything, a miscarriage that broke us open in

There’s a couple you probably follow. Maybe you know them personally, maybe you don’t. But you know their relationship online, or at least, you think you do. You’ve seen their anniversary captions, their “spontaneous” beach photos, and the tender videos of one surprising the other with flowers. You’ve watched their relationship unfold in real time,

Think back to a moment when you felt truly understood by your partner, not just heard, but genuinely met. Maybe they picked up on something you hadn’t even said out loud. Maybe they knew exactly what you needed without being asked. That feeling, that quiet, settling sense of being known, has a name. It’s called