Secret #2: Become good at saying “I’m sorry.”

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Despite your best efforts, you’ll make mistakes in your relationship or marriage.

There is no way around this.

We are fallible people who make mistakes.

Some of us more than others, but still.

Now the interesting thing is that studies have shown that the people slowest to apologise are the ones most likely to stay single or get divorced. 

Isn’t that interesting?

I think it is.

Such a simple thing to do with such huge implications if you’re struggling with it.

Here is something I’ve said to numerous couples I’ve seen in my relationship coaching practice:

Sometimes you have to decide if you’d rather be right or happy.

The ironic, and sad, thing is that many often times choose to rather be correct than happy.

Sometimes, you just need to be okay with not being right. You need to be okay with eating some humble pie and be sweet with it.

Saying that you’re sorry and apologising when it’s required, is actually a sign of strength and not weakness.

You won’t be less of a man if you can apologise to your woman when you made a mistake.

In fact, in my experience, it will most likely add more credibility in her eyes.

So, here is my advice to you – be strong enough to say you’re sorry when the time comes, and move on. And it doesn’t matter if you’re partner apologises or not.

In fact, become good at saying “I’m sorry” first and quickly.

It will serve your relationship hugely and actually increase the levels of happiness in it.

When your partner knows that you are “big enough” to admit when you’re at fault … wow … that is just such a huge thing.

And when it’s done, it’s done.

Let sleeping dogs lie.

Questions for reflection

  1. How good are you at saying “I am sorry?”
  2. How good are you at moving on from issues and letting things go?
  3. If you’re not good at it, why is that?
  4. What can you do to improve?
  5. How can your partner help you improve?
  6. How often do you want to be “right” rather than “happy?”
  7. What can you and your partner do to make “apologising” a much simpler and natural part of your relationship?

In module 3, we will look at secret #3 for creating a happy relationship.

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