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Are you longing for the passionate relationship you know you deserve ...
And ready to learn how to make it a reality?
Then keep reading.
Falling in love is the easiest part of a relationship. But keeping the fire of a love relationship burning high, is the hard part.
Because creating a loving relationship that lasts takes 1) time, 2) commitment, and 3) perseverance.
So, if you want to learn the strategies to overcome the various difficulties which present themselves in our love lives, as well as how to deepen your love for each other, then this is the most important letter you'll read today.
I'll show you WHY in a minute ...
Please understand that any results I'm sharing with you are not typical. I’m not implying you’ll duplicate them, get any similar results, fix your marriage, or do anything for that matter.
I have been happily married to my wife for over thirteen years, have learned many valuable lessons only married life can teach, have studied relationship dynamics for a long time, and have worked with many different couples. I am not average in this regard.
The average person who buys any “how to” information gets little to no results and for many different reasons. I’m just using any examples or results as references for example purposes only.
Your results will vary and depend on many factors … including but not limited to your situation, mental health, background, experience, and committed action.
Any marriage and love relationship entails some sort of risk ... you're sharing a life with another unique individual after all.
If you're not willing to accept that, please DO NOT GET THIS BOOK!
Now, with all that being said ... let's dive right in and let me share with you ...
They are FOCUSED on communication, intimacy, and keeping the spark alive.
Do you know what you actually want in your relationship? Are you asking for too much? Not enough?
Do you believe that you can have a fulfilling, passionate long-term relationship? Do you have faith that, even though you and your partner might be stuck in a rut now, you can bring the excitement back?
And...do you know HOW to build such a joyful relationship?
From the time we’re young, we’re implanted with false ideas of what it means to be in a relationship.
We spend our entire lives thinking that passion is just for dating and “newlyweds.”
False ideas like these:
It’s like living in isolation. We desperately want to find the passion we deserve.
To break through the doldrums of routines that have held us back. To figure out why we’ve lost that spark and how to get it back.
To let absolutely NOTHING stand in the way of the passionate love we deserve.
To stop giving up at the first sign of “not tonight.”
But we don’t know how.
We’re held back by myths and boring routines.
But what if there was a solution?
A way to break out of our rut, understand the difference between infatuation and deeper, true love, know what we want, keep the spark alive, and CONFRONT our relationship fears?
Now there is...
Let me tell you ...
This book is very different from most things you've read before because it shows you the step-by-step process to go from infatuation to a truer, deeper love, conquer boring routines, discover how to keep the passion alive, and much more!
There is no fluff or filler. Just heaps of sound strategies to help you start creating good and positive results in your love relationship as quickly as possible.
It immediately gets down to fundamental principles in no uncertain terms or polished language, showing you exactly where you need to start, how to do it best, what to most, what to avoid like the plague, and why.
It's also easy to read so it won't take you months to finish and before you can start implementing the different strategies.
It is just 190 pages with 5 different key parts and a complete summary of each, which means you can read it pretty quickly.
This powerful book contains 35 lessons that lead you on a step-by-step journey to teach you how to have a PASSIONATE relationship.
You will discover how to show love to your partner, knowing the importance of sexuality and sensuality so you can live a life together that's filled with excitement and joy.
This powerful journey could absolutely change your relationship.
In 20 years, you could look back on THIS as the time when you finally realised you were capable of maintaining a passionate, long-term relationship.
When you accepted love in its truest form.
When you stopped being held back by your routines, discouraged because you didn’t understand how to keep the spark alive, and developed the relationship you were DESTINED to have.
This is your moment ...
Your fork in the road.
Your door to an exciting relationship that stays exciting.
The key to the cage has been given to you. You can either open the cage or throw it away.
It’s your choice. Will you be truly, passionately loved or lonely?
You could try to learn all of this on your own, but it would require hours upon hours of reading and research.
You wouldn’t have the guidance of an expert.
And you wouldn’t really know if you were making progress.
Or you could be taken by the hand and guided on this life-changing journey.
Which will it be?
There are 5 parts with 35 total lessons.
The parts are:
The lessons are:
Most committed relationships, except those of convenience, had a spark which caught fire and became unbridled passion. Feelings were intense. Within a couple of months, they began to wonder what happened. Where did all the passion go?
Maybe this is you. This lesson explains why your passion decreased and introduces some challenges that the course gives solutions for.
#2 - You Can Keep It Special
In this lesson, you’ll learn some basic strategies to keep the spark alive. You’ll see how making your relationship a priority can change much of your life. You’ll discover the differences between ordinary routines and positive rituals, and end the lesson with some fun rituals that keep the passion burning.
#3 - Help! It’s Already Difficult!
What happens when you haven’t lived with each other long and things are already difficult? Remember, you’re merging two households as well as two different ways of living. Before you doubt yourself and your decision, learn about common difficulties when a couple first moves in with each other and how to ease the transition.
#4 - Keeping Challenges to a Minimum
In this lesson, you’ll discover how most disagreements are rarely about the couple. They’re about the individual. In fact, the biggest disagreements between couples are a matter of perspective. You’ll learn how to better understand the reasons for your particular viewpoints. Finally, you’ll learn the key to keeping small challenges from turning into big issues.
#5 - Did I Make a Mistake?
In this lesson, you’ll explore ways to evaluate your concerns that you may have made a mistake in moving in together or getting married. You’ll see how merging lives takes time. You’ll learn how doubts are often based on emotions and how to resolve them. And you’ll discover strategies you can use to strengthen your relationship.
#6 - What You Can Expect
The early passion which brought you together can bring you to a deepening commitment to each other over the years. This results in a comfortableness you didn’t know was possible. In this lesson, you’ll see how change and life stages can affect your relationship and how the foundation you set now will assist as changes occur.
#7 - Module 1 Summary and Reflection
You now know that there are many things you can do to counteract the effect of some decreasing “passion” chemicals in your body. You’ve learned rituals that keep the fun in your relationship. And you know strategies for dealing with the changes as your relationship matures and as you age. It’s time to reflect on what you’ve learned, as well as think through how you’re going to implement these things in your life.
#8 - Don’t Count on Mind Reading
Your communication styles began before you met each other. You also have different personality characteristics which affect your communication with each other. In this lesson, you’ll learn what happens when you make assumptions about your partner’s thoughts and feelings, the importance of timing your discussions, and which partner needs to be more patient.
#9 - You’re Both Learning
This lesson lays another of layer to the foundation regarding personal differences in communication. Being aware of personal differences can assist you in accepting your partner as they are and adapt how you interact with their style. You’ll explore how much you want to know your partner, the power of listening, and the art of questioning.
#10 - Communication Differences
In this lesson, you’ll discover how there are differences in personality which affect how you give messages and how they are received. You’ll learn specific strategies for getting past these differences, resulting in more effective communication and a stronger bond.
#11 - Four Ways of Communicating
An appropriate communication style achieves its goal in the given situation. In this lesson, you’ll learn about four basic communication styles - passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive. You’ll also discover when it’s effective to use each of these styles.
#12 - Getting It Right - Reflective Listening
In this lesson, you’ll learn and practice the most effective way to communicate with your partner. You want to ensure your partner hears what you’re saying. You’ll discover the precise process for Reflective Listening, where you hear your partner’s thoughts and feelings without your own interpretation interfering with the message.
#13 - Words That Destroy - Words That Build
Words have power to create or destroy. In this final communication lesson, you’ll learn about words and phrases which can separate you or increase conflict and those which can bring you closer together. To build your relationship you want to establish intimacy. You’ll discover loving words and strategies that support this goal.
#14 - Module 2 Summary and Reflection
In this lesson, you’ll reflect on all that you’ve learned about communicating effectively with your partner. You’ve seen how differences in personality and communication style can enrich your life or produce challenges if you’re not aware of them. You might be surprised to discover how much you’ve learned! Now it’s time to think about how you’re going to put your new strategies into practice.
#15 - Common Challenges
In this lesson, you’ll discover how to use your communication techniques to resolve several common issues: when one of you doesn’t do what they say they will, when life gets difficult for one of you, and the challenges of a blended family.
#16 - Handling Anger
Regardless of how good your communication is, someone will get angry at some point. In this lesson, you’ll discover how to sort out your anger when you or your partner are angry, so it doesn’t fester and weaken your relationship.
#17 - What’s the Real Reason for Your Anger?
It may surprise you to learn that what you think you’re upset about isn’t it at all. Keeping feelings hidden takes energy away from the energy needed to have an intimate, passionate, and amazing relationship. In this lesson, you’ll learn specific exercises to discover what’s at the root of your anger and what you can do about it.
#18 - When Games Aren’t Fun
When you share honestly and deeply, you can achieve an intimacy which binds you to each other. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to avoid destructive relationship games you or your partner may play unconsciously. These games block intimacy, distract you from the truth of how you feel, and as a result, your relationship loses.
#19 - Fun Games
In this lesson, you’ll learn some fun, positive relationship games. Their intention is to facilitate open communication and keep your relationship fun and exciting. You’ll discover how to find out your partner’s love language and learn some fun rituals to keep the fire burning.
#20 - Fears Can Challenge Your Relationship
In this lesson, you’ll address fearful feelings, often long-standing, which directly interfere in your relationship with your partner. You’ll examine two basic fears - the fear of rejection and the fear of abandonment - and learn specific strategies to work through them.
#21 - Module 3 Summary and Reflection
Although it took courage to face some of the topics in this module, it gave you the opportunity to explore common challenges, anger, and your relationship fears. You discovered your partner’s love language. And you learned about relationship games that keep you apart and others that bring you closer together. Reflecting on your new strategies will help you apply them and enhance your relationship.
#22 - Everyone Needs Space
This lesson gives you an exercise to determine yours and your partner’s needs for personal space. You’ll learn how your personal space requirement depends on your personality, your brain chemicals, and how it will expand and contract depending on the situation.
#23 - Outside Friendships
You and your partner are amazing people with gifts, talents, and interests. Some of those you have in common. They probably drew you together. Others you don’t share. Outside friendships give you variety as well as the opportunity to explore different aspects of yourself. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to manage outside friendships while keeping a sizzling relationship with your partner.
#24 - Money and Work - The Joy and Pain
In this lesson, you’ll examine how work and money can be used for necessities and fun or can become a hostile third party in your relationship. Learn how to make money work for you, not against you.
#25 - Blended Families
This lesson is about managing the challenges of bringing children into your relationship, making yours a blended family. As with all things, clear communication keeps your relationship strong as you learn strategies to enable your new family to flourish.
#26 - Nurture Your Relationship as You Grow and Change
As the two of you navigate the joys and challenges of life, you’ll continue to learn about yourself and your partner. Over time, as you grow, you’ll also change. These changes can be confusing for you and your partner. Learn how to handle these changes and use them to enhance your relationship.
#27 - Defining What’s Important
In this lesson, you’ll explore what is most important to you and your partner, and what to do when your expectations are violated. Be aware of your non-negotiables and learn how to compromise in areas in which you can be more flexible.
#28 - Module 4 Summary and Reflection
You now have a strong foundation for heading off the repercussions of many types of challenges in your relationship, including differing needs for personal space and outside friendships. Keep practicing the strategies you’ve learned. When something is ingrained in you, you’ll have ready access to it during stressful situations.
#29 - Talking About Sex
Your sexuality and sexual desires are often difficult to share with your partner, but doing so will increase your overall sense of intimacy and trust with each other. In this lesson you’ll learn why it might be difficult to talk about sex, what to talk about, and strategies to help you in your discussions.
#30 - How and Why Sex Drives Differ
In this lesson, you’ll look at the difference in sex drives between men and women as well as within males and females. You’ll also learn how stress can kill libido and how to counteract the negative sexual effects of stress.
#31 - The Role of Hormones
In this lesson, you’ll learn about the role of hormones and how they affect sexual desire and response. You’ll also learn symptoms of hormonal imbalances in both men and women and what to do if you suspect you or your partner has an imbalance.
#32 - Sensuality and Sexuality
This lesson is an introduction into what turns people on. This will give you some ideas of what to do to initiate having sex as well as fun things to do during sex. You’ll learn the difference between sensuality and sexuality, and what are the most sensual areas of yours and your partner’s bodies.
#33 - Spicing Up Your Sex Life
In this lesson, you’ll learn some fun things to spice up your sexual relationship, including getting rid of the routine, an activity from the ancient practice of Tantra to bring you closer, and other fun activities. You’ll also learn about the minefield of past experiences and strategies to help you and your partner get past negative influences from the past.
#34 - Can Relationships Survive Without Sex?
In this lesson, you’ll address what to do if you and your partner can’t have sex. Is this the end to intimacy? You’ll learn how to address physical challenges, your emotional connection, and the challenge of one of you not wanting physical intimacy.
#35 - Module 5 Summary and Reflection
You’ve had a quick overview of sex and sexuality in this module. You’ve learned about differences in personal sexual appetites, how hormones can affect sexual desires, and some games you can use to spice up your sexual relationship. You’ve also explored how you can adjust if intercourse isn’t possible. You’ll reflect on all you’ve learned, so you can leave the lessons knowing how to Keep the Fire Burning!
When you first fall in love it’s like there’s a fire between you filled with passion and excitement.
As you move beyond the infatuation stage, that fire lessens, and you may wonder if you made a mistake.
The only mistake is in forgetting that it takes effort and commitment to keep a relationship going.
Your relationship began with a chemical reaction between the two of you. That’s not very romantic, but it’s true.
And if you want to be one of the couples who celebrates their 60th anniversary, now is the time to establish routines and habits which nourish your relationship.
The good news is that in this book, you’ll learn all the necessary strategies to overcome difficulties in your relationship AND move your relationship to a depth you never thought possible.
In short ...
You’ll discover that the decrease in passion in your relationship is a natural part of life and why this is so, and what to do about it.
You’ll learn specific ways to speak to your partner no matter what is happening in your life.
You’ll have detailed and specific instructions on proven ways to communicate with each other, even in the difficult times.
You’ll discover why you or your partner wanting personal space doesn’t necessarily mean that your love for each other is disappearing.
You’ll discover how sexual desire changes and how you can adapt your sexual relationship and remain emotionally intimate.
Finally, you’re going to...
But that is just the tip of the iceberg ...
I truly believe that a happy person can create a happy love relationship, but an unhappy person cannot, or at least, not without real difficulty.
And if you're waiting for your relationship to get better BEFORE you can be happy, you're in for a rude awakening!
When your happiness is tied to another person or being in a certain type of relationship with them before you can be happy, you're setting yourself up for failure.
Now, I also believe that you MUST choose to be with the right person who makes you happy, but your happiness isn't solely dependent on that.
Being in a relationship with someone else who's happy in themselves makes everything else so much simpler.
Because the moment I become solely responsible for my partner's happiness, we're in trouble as a couple.
It will simply become too taxing and draining to take responsibility for your partner's happiness and overall emotional health.
Yes, of course we are all allowed our off days when our partners just need to pick up the slack, but that's not what I mean here.
It's when one partner has to start carrying the burden of making the couple happy that things become strained, imbalanced, and difficult.
So, because happiness is such a crucial element in keeping the fire burning and creating a love relationship that lasts, I decided to add a BONUS eBook to this one (you can't buy it anywhere else in my store).
Understand a simple truth ...
Happiness doesn't just show up!
It's our responsibility to learn, understand and apply as many principles and habits relating to happiness as we can, in order to become happier in ourselves.
Yes, the world isn't perfect and it's getting harder and harder for many to keep their heads up and keep moving forward.
But the ancient Stoic Philosophers believed that the fastest path to disappointment was in trying to control the things outside of our control - like the regrets of the past, fears for the future, other people, or the world.
A better use of our time is to start with what we DO control, namely ourselves.
And this BONUS eBook will be a good start.
So, HOW can you get my new Book PLUS bonus?
Because working with me one-on-one would cost you hundreds of dollars (if approved as a client) ...
An because printing and shipping from New Zealand are expensive and often a pain in the butt.
Not to mention the fact that when shipping out physical books, a small percentage of books shipped out usually gets lost in the mail.
And some others could take over three weeks to arrive from New Zealand. We are down-down-under after all.
I figured you'd prefer to get the book immediately, rather than having to wait a couple of weeks.
So, as soon as you place your order today (below), you'll be taken to a page with the download links, as well as an email receipt with the download links.
You can download the books instantly and read them today.
You can access your books anywhere, instantly, without having to wait for the post office to get it to you!
Oh, and in case you were wondering ...
THERE IS NO CATCH
This isn't one of them.
There's NO hidden "continuity program" you have to try ... or anything even remotely like that.
I'm giving you this entire book at cost, PLUS the BONUS book, as a means of helping you and by adding adding real value.
My hope is that you'll love it and this will be the start of a good relationship between us for years to come.
With that said, there is ONE thing to keep in mind:
Time Is Of The Essence
The longer you wait to work on your own levels of happiness
AND learn to strategies to create a love relationship that lasts,
the tougher things can get
Research (cf. Gottman-Institute) shows that the average couple waits six (6) years after problems started sticking their head out before seeking help.
The problem with that it is that it's usually too far gone by that stage. The sooner a couple seeks help or make changes, the better.
What I'm saying is this - if you're reading this letter it means you're interested in this book and believe that your relationship can be improved, which also means you might not have time on your side.
Furthermore, and this is just a fact more than a warning - I will sell this book in my general online store in the near future, but at a higher price than here.
So yes ...
This is time sensitive and yes ...
the "Habitual Happiness" bonus book.
Oh, and by the way, even though you're paying a ridiculously low price - you're still protected by …
I 100% Guarantee you'll get a lot from this book and the bonus book OR I'll return your $19 and let you keep the book and bonus book anyway.
Just email me your receipt and I'll give you back your $19 with no questions asked.
How's that for fair?
P.S. In case you're one of those people (like me) who just skip to the end of the letter, here's the deal:
I'm giving you a 190 page book, with 5 key parts and complete summaries of each, that outlines the exact strategies for keeping the fire burning and how to build a loving relationship that lasts.
All you pay is a measly $19.
(This price is cheaper than one-on-one coaching and covers my cost).
***** I'm also giving you a BONUS book on creating habitual happiness in your life.
This bonus book is important because it shows you what happiness is, why it's important and the 7 core habits you need to adopt in your life to create happiness.
I'm giving it to you as a gift because I truly believe that
happy people create happy relationships much simpler and easier than unhappy people hoping the relationship would make them happy.
This is a time-sensitive offer (see above) - both for your sake and because I'll be selling this book in my online store for higher later on.
There is no "catch" to this offer. You will not be signing up for any "trial" to some monthly program or anything like that. There is also no up-sell of any kind.
In fact, if you don't like the book let me know and I'll even give you back your $19.
Click here and claim your copy now. It WILL serve you!
Please understand that any results I'm sharing with you are not typical. I’m not implying you’ll duplicate them, get any similar results, fix your marriage, or do anything for that matter. I have been happily married to my wife for over thirteen years, have learned many valuable lessons only married life can teach, have studied relationship dynamics for a long time, and have worked with many different couples. I am not average in this regard. The average person who buys any “how to” information gets little to no results and for many different reasons. I’m just using any examples or results as references for example purposes only. Your results will vary and depend on many factors … including but not limited to your situation, mental health, background, experience, and committed action. Any marriage and love relationship entails some sort of risk ... you're sharing a life with another unique individual after all. If you're not willing to accept that, please DO NOT GET THIS BOOK!