How do you deal with negative people? Chances are you know a few. They might work with you, or be at your sports club, or even live in your house! In order for us to achieve our goals in life and life happily are very much dependent on our ability to manage people around us.
You can be super focused but if you surround yourself with negative people chance are they will get to you at some point.
If you are extremely happy but constantly hear negative talk or gossip, that too will get to you at some stage.
Now, I’m not saying that you will succumb to it but you will reach a point where you will make some choice, like leaving a job or avoiding certain places.
The problem I have with that is, why do I need to give up my happiness for the sake of others?
So perhaps a better way is learning how to deal with those that annoy me, like chronic naysayers.
In this video, I teach 3 lessons I’ve learned to deal with negative people and keep my sanity and power to keep moving forward to the things that I value for my own life.
I hope they serve you too.
Now is the time to take control back of your environment and you do that by being smart and not annoyed 🙂
Below are 5 more ways to deal with negative people which I hope you’ll get something from.
5 More Ways to Deal with Negative People
Here are some ways to deal with these difficult people.
They may not all be easy (heck, none of them is easy!), but they will give you some peace of mind that you’re doing the right thing.
- Wait before responding. Our first instinct is to immediately react and retaliate. However, reacting to another individual’s negativity usually only eggs them on. You may even realize that a response is not even needed. Maybe the other person was merely venting and needs to simply be ignored because the attack was not personal at all.
- If you spend some time cooling off before you respond, you can gain perspective on the situation. If necessary, remove yourself from the room when confronted with a difficult person. Go for a walk outside or walk up a flight of stairs to vent your frustrations.
- Stop rehashing the situation. This is especially a problem in office job situations where gossip spreads like wildfire. There will always be someone ready to listen to bad things about another. This is a waste of your time and energy. Drop the subject and move on.
- The longer you dwell on the situation and talk about it with others, the more negative and angry you’ll become. Take the high road and step away from those who are gossiping or speak up and tell others you don’t want to listen to it.
- Express your feelings. If you simply need to get your emotions off your chest, try writing a letter. Vent all your thoughts, feelings, and hurt onto the piece of paper. Let it all out until there’s nothing left to say. Then crumple up the paper and throw it away. As you do, imagine your negative feelings being thrown away with it.
- Don’t let your partner or spouse prevent you from speaking your mind. A true partnership is one in which the ideas and thoughts of each partner are heard.
- Put yourself in their shoes. This can be very difficult, but study the individual who’s hurting you. What’s going on his life right now? Maybe he’s having family issues or a health crisis.
- Try to look at the situation as an objective observer detached from the situation. This can help give you some compassion for the difficult person in your life.
- Prayer or meditation can help you stay calm and see a situation differently. Consider the difficulties this other person might be facing in life and think about how you would handle a similar situation.
- Respond positively. This may not always be possible and certainly won’t be easy. After looking over the situation and trying to understand where the other person was coming from, find something positive to say about him.
- Remember the phrase, “Kill ‘em with kindness”? Very often responding calmly and with a friendly tone will diffuse a difficult situation.
Negative people are everywhere.
Don’t let them take your happiness away or affect your mood.
Teach these difficult people by leading a good example, by responding calmly, and by showing kindness.
As a result, you’ll bring more happiness to others and find that you feel greater happiness yourself.
Now that you have enough ammunition, go and do what you have to do.
Please leave your thoughts and questions below and I would love to read them.