May 15, 2017 |Gideon

 

Better Results Demand More Confidence

Every result demands an action. Every action, however, is determined by a certain preceding mindset. Average thinking leads to average actions which lead to average results. It’s a simple equation. But that’s not the end of it. Average results lead to even more average thinking which leads to even more average results which ultimately lead to even worse results, and on and on it goes.  Great results, therefore, demand great thinking, and having a confident mindset is one of the most important and powerful ones to have.

The question, therefore, becomes how you develop more confident thinking.

It would be nice to just have confidence without doing anything to deserve feelings of confidence, but that’s a tough trick to pull off.

You can, however, take a few simple steps and create all the confidence you’ll ever need.

I’ll share with you a few simple ideas below to consider if you want to create greater levels of confidence in your life.

Having more confidence is really the key difference between those who are successful and those who are not.

One can obviously be overly confident and by doing so also ruin your chances of success, but that’s not what this is about.

The confidence I’m talking about here is the kind that induces self-belief and conviction that the outcome you’re after is almost all but certain.

It’s an inner knowing with action that reflects that.

GH, Gideon Hanekom, Life Coach, High Performance, Trainer, Consultant, Personal Development, Writer, Thought Leader, Speaker, Pastor, M.Div, Whangarei, Northland, New Zealand, New Life, Better Life, Blog

But to experience that type of confidence you have to take certain actions first.

Confidence is a best elicited by actively doing certain things.

You cannot sit around and wait for confidence to show up and then take action.

No, it works the other way round actually.

You must step out with confidence and MORE confidence will show up which will then influence HOW you show up.

Confidence demands a first step op some sorts though.

The greatest “first step” you can take, I have learned, is raising your standards and what you demand of yourself.

Let’s look at a few examples below.

Raise your standards and gain higher levels of confidence:

  1. Set your sights higher.

Instead of shooting for a new job with a 15% raise, what about a 30% raise?

Rather than starting a sideline business and adding $1,000/month to your income, what if your goal was to replace your current income with your side-line business idea?

GH, Gideon Hanekom, Life Coach, High Performance, Trainer, Consultant, Personal Development, Writer, Thought Leader, Speaker, Pastor, M.Div, Whangarei, Northland, New Zealand, New Life, Better Life, Blog

One of the keys to more success and confidence is raising your standards.

Most people never rise above mediocrity because that level of achievement is comfortable.

It isn’t too difficult and life is pleasant enough at the level.

Demand more of yourself and life and your actions will follow.

  1. Double everything.

One way to raise your standards is to double everything.

Whether you’re talking about increasing your income, making a certain number of cold calls each week, or approaching strangers in order to work on your social skills, double your first instinct.

Avoid the mistake of doing just enough.

Go above and beyond.

Don’t be pleasantly surprised by your success.

Instead, set big enough goals and do enough to achieve them that you’re shocked if you fail.

  1. Use the idea of overwhelming force to ensure your success.

The military often applies this technique.

If a situation calls for 1,000 troops, five tanks, and three helicopters, they might send 3,000 troops, 15 tanks, and 10 helicopters.

Victory is all but assured.

If you need to exercise three times each week to reach your weight loss goal, hit the gym five times per week.

Do you need to approach 10 potential clients each week to reach your income goal? Approach at least 20 instead.

Does your training program say 4 x 400m for the afternoon? Do 4 x 400m plus another 200m just for good measure, even if you do it slower.

GH, Gideon Hanekom, Life Coach, High Performance, Trainer, Consultant, Personal Development, Writer, Thought Leader, Speaker, Pastor, M.Div, Whangarei, Northland, New Zealand, New Life, Better Life, Blog

It’s also called the Law of Averages.

Increase your chances of success by increasing your actions.

Make it impossible to fail.

Put in enough effort that success is practically guaranteed.

  1. When you set big goals and take massive action, you feel in control of your life.

This type of behaviour leads to confidence.

Imagine setting a big goal and going above and beyond the activity requirements to ensure that goal is reached.

Imagine how good that would feel.

But, what do most people do instead?

They make plans to run on the treadmill for 30 minutes, but convince themselves it’s okay to stop after 20 minutes.

They make plans to call five potential clients each day but only call two.

They need to lose 30 kilos but settle for losing 10 kilos.

This type of behaviour is ruinous to your self-esteem and confidence.

Remember that you confidence feeds on the results you get.

The better the results, the more confidence you’ll have, which in turn feeds back into your actions which lead to even better results.

And on and on.

  1. Enjoy your successes.

It’s likely that you’re too hard on yourself.

You have every right to rejoice in your triumphs.

Doing so will increase the pleasant feelings you associate with big goals, hard work, and success.

You’ll be more likely to experience success again in the future.

Don’t be shy or modest; celebrate your success and hard work.

This will anchor all the good feelings that come with that in your nervous system, which will make easier to keep going.

Just make sure your celebration or reward is exactly that: a reward for hard work done, not “desert before the meal” so to speak.

That will have the opposite effect on your actions in the long run.

GH, Gideon Hanekom, Life Coach, High Performance, Trainer, Consultant, Personal Development, Writer, Thought Leader, Speaker, Pastor, M.Div, Whangarei, Northland, New Zealand, New Life, Better Life, Blog

Last thoughts

Small goals, weak effort, and mediocre results won’t result in high levels of self-confidence.

You can only expect to feel as confident as the average person.

So set your sights higher.

Instead of setting small goals to avoid disappointing yourself, set big goals that give you the chance to be highly successful.

Instead of actions and a level of activity that might lead to success, do so much that you can’t fail.

The resulting boost of confidence you receive is well-deserved. Enjoy it and then repeat the process.

I would love to hear from you. Just leave your comments and questions below.

Cheers for now.

To your success,

GH, Gideon Hanekom, Life Coach, High Performance, Trainer, Consultant, Personal Development, Writer, Thought Leader, Speaker, Pastor, M.Div, Whangarei, Northland, New Zealand, New Life, Better Life, Blog

 

 

 

About the author

Gideon

Gideon is the founder of TheRelationshipGuy.com, a top-50 relationship blog (2021) and top-100 marriage blog (2021) focused on providing healthy relationship advice about love and life. He earned a Master's degree in theological studies before training as a professional counsellor and hypnotherapist (DipProfCouns., DipMSHT.) almost 10 years ago. He is currently pursuing further graduate Psychology studies at Massey University while working as a relationship and dating blogger the majority of the time. He has been married to his wife for over fifteen years and is the father of two children.

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