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6 habits that destroy happiness!
1. Unnecessary spending.
One of the greatest stressors in life is financial issues and happiness is harder to find when you’re up to your eyeballs in debt.
General financial pressure is also one of the greatest causes of misery and divorce.
Clutter is another barrier to happiness.
When you spend too much, you tend to have too much stuff.
It also tends to always in the way and serves as a constant reminder that you spent more than you should have (I hate it when guilt lies everywhere, staring at me).
Instead, it's better to think about the reward (outcome) you gain from spending and then find a less destructive way to accomplish the same thing.
We always do something for a reason, right?
If you want to make happiness a real possibility in your life though, keep your spending under control.
2. Postponing your life.
We’re always waiting for something to happen before taking action.
Whether it’s waiting for the first of the month to start a diet, or waiting for the kids to leave the home before starting an online business, we always have an excuse to wait.
But, there will never be a perfect time to take that big step.
Sometimes you need to quit the job...
Or break up with that person.
Or apply for that new position.
Or start a new hobby.
The point is, if you want a real shot a more happiness you must begin to manage your circumstances as well as possible and getting started today.
Time is the one thing none of us can ever get back.
Wasting time on pointless stuff is truly the worst life strategy.
3. Blaming others for your challenges.
A sure way to destroy happiness in your life, is getting into the habit of blaming.
When you blame others or other things, you essentially give away any control you had.
I understand that it’s not easy to accept responsibility for all of the unpleasant things in your life, but what other choice do you have?
No one else is going to fix it for you.
No one is coming to save you.
Even if you’ve been used and abused, you are still responsible for dealing with the aftermath.
It can sound callous and I don't mean for it to, but it's the truth.
It's like on guy said: "You can have emotion or progress, but you cannot have both. You must choose."
To increase your chances of be happier, you must accept the challenge and move forward.
4. Not staying grounded in the present.
Many (if not most) people have a bad habit of dwelling on past mistakes and tragedies and worrying about the future.
Again, living in the regrets of the past or the fears of the future is a sure path to anxiety and stress.
The past is over, so leave it there.
The future is not yet, so good choices today could eliminate most future challenges.
Focus on making the most of today, and the future will take care of itself.
Here's a challenge - pay attention to your thoughts for an entire day...
Notice how much time you spend thinking about the past or the future.
That includes worries and anxiety (they are just symptoms of past or future thinking).
Now think about how that impacts your effectiveness and most importantly, your happiness.
5. Holding a grudge.
If someone has wronged you, it is fine if you choose not to trust that person again.
But, holding on to the animosity is pointless.
You just end up making yourself super unhappy and very ineffective.
Once a situation is over, learn what you can from it but then choose to forge ahead with the lessons learned.
Avoid holding grudges as they will consume you over time.
6. Focusing on challenges instead of solutions.
It’s easy to feel overwhelmed if you focus on the unpleasant things in your life.
Rather than do that, spend your time, energy, and focus on finding a way to make things better.
Not only will you most likely feel better, you will probably be much more successful also.
It’s easier to be happy if you stop doing the things that prevent happiness in your life.
Yes, we all pick up some bad habits along the way but that doesn't mean we need to keep them.
If something (or someone) isn't serving your life or happiness, make the decision to either minimise your exposure to that, or find a way to eliminate it from your life completely.
The important thing is to recognise them first though, before you can manage them.
Allow yourself to be happy by letting go of your anti-happiness habits.
When you do that you’ll find that happiness isn’t as challenging to achieve as you might have thought.
Do you want to learn more?
I think happiness is available to most people for the most part (there are exceptions, I'll admit, but they are few and far between).
And to help you create more happiness in your life, I've just released a short eBook and worksheet called "Happiness 101: A Modern Guide to Bringing More Joy Into Your Life."
This guide will show you the way to get started, but the rest is up to you.
It start with getting a copy, reading it and making the necessary changes in your life.
I hope you go check it out.
Click the button below to download your copy.
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